The POWer of the Sisterhood

There’s nothing quite like the feeling of a long phone call or FaceTime with a bestie that you haven’t seen in forever. My bestie’s have been around for years, but we’re all growing up, going our different ways, and sometimes it feels like they’re a million miles away (some of them actually are!)

I’m so proud of all of my girls who are making their own way in the world, whether they’re getting promoted, starting families, or going on amazing adventures. Sometimes though I have waves of neediness, days where I just need one of them to give me some attention, even though I know they are always there for me, the distance can be hard. Whenever this does happen I always feel a little bit lonely, they’re no longer around the corner, I can’t pop in for a brew anymore and rant all of my stresses away.

“The power of the sisterhood is unstoppable and when you have an unbreakable bond with your best friends.’

Every cloud has a silver lining though, and there is a beauty in the distance. Moving around means you can meet all different types of people, and I have many incredible friends that I love dearly. My home girls though, they keep my feet on the ground, they keep me on the straight and narrow when I need putting back there, they give me the honest truths that I don't want to hear, and most of all, they make my heart feel so full of girl power love that I feel invincible.

“When you have your girls, you can do anything”

Drama, drama, drama. Our sisterhood circle drama is like something off a brilliant episode of Coronation Street. Honestly no joke. Many unwise decisions have been made and rocky relationships have come and gone, but when it’s your girls, you stick by them despite their mistakes. Our hot tub times have turned into world war fights, girls holidays have been spent drunk screaming at each other, but no matter what, we have been there for each other through thick and thin.

Through the ups and the downs, from city to country, we still all make our way back together somehow. Here are a few things I’ve learnt along the way to make that happen.

1. Never stop catch-ing up, even if it’s about the pointless shit that happened in your day (literally in our case - girls you know what I mean.) I want to know everything from what you had for your tea, the dick that said something rude to you at work, the trick you just taught your dog, and to the Netflix series you’re currently obsessed with. When you’re far away you have to over share all of the small things that happen to you, that way you still feel like a part of each others lives. Then there’s catching up in person, it’s so hard to find a time when everyone is free, but keep working at it because creating memories with your best friends is a girl’s best kept treasure.

2. No one is perfect, love your friends for their faults, that’s after you’ve got mad at them.

Sometimes you get the brunt of a bad mood, or you take the hit when someone isn’t feeling themselves, but you have to remember not to take things personally. Even though we catch up all of the time, we’re all criminals of keeping things to ourselves. No one knows what’s happening behind closed doors, so if they’re being a bit grumpy, ask them if they’re ok and tell them you love them.

3. Build them up, and up. Don’t even think about knocking them down. My friends being proud of me makes me happy, and being proud of my friends makes me even happier. We’re all overcoming barriers in our own way and learning new things about ourselves, when that happens and your girls are in your corner with their pom pom’s cheerleading you on, you feel so incredibly amazing. Absolutely no one should underestimate the influence you can have by telling your gal she’s amazing and she can achieve anything, because with your backing, she can.

4. When someone is in need, you’re there. No questions asked. Life is beautiful but it can be a bugger at the best of times, and this is where the power the sisterhood really does come into play. The thing I love about my girls is that if one of us needs is, we are absolutely there no questions asked. We all know, we’re all on the same page. We will travel to the ends of the earth to make sure everyone is supported, we rally together to make shit happen, and it happens.

5. Never turn your back on them, they are priority. My girls are family. Sisters from other misters. Every one of them. We might all be going in different directions and in different parts of the world, but they always have my time and I always have theirs. Prioritising your best friends and keeping them close even when you’re far away is the key to make your friendship last forever.

The power of the sisterhood is unstoppable and when you have an unbreakable bond with your best friends, you’re know you’re good for life. I don’t know what I’d do without mine. To all of my girls, you know who you are, I love you.

Charlie Farlie x